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Username: Maof2
Post Number: 32
Registered: 06-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 2:31 pm: |    |
people pop in on you? I don't know why, but it just kinda bugs me. after the steam stops coming outta my ears and redness comes outta my face, i then become the gracious host. am i the only one here that feels the same way? |
Jcole
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Username: Jcole
Post Number: 2403
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 2:35 pm: | |
Mao, I don't do drop in guests well. I think it goes back to when I was first married and my mother used to just walk into my apt. any time of the day or night as she pleased. Without knocking |
Eriedearie
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Username: Eriedearie
Post Number: 2264
Registered: 08-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 2:54 pm: | |
I don't do well with pop ins either. I like to know at least a couple hours in advance if possible. I love company and love to entertain, but I need to be prepared for it. I like to have some refreshments to serve my guests. We mostly drink water most of the time - and frankly I get embarrased if that's all I have to offer. So a call ahead of schedule is very much appreciated. |
Maof2
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Username: Maof2
Post Number: 34
Registered: 06-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 3:11 pm: | |
ya know, if your not lookin' your best or what have you. my doorbell rang once, i was able to see who it was peeking out a window, well, let me tell you, i had no intentions of answering. do you believe, this "friend" kept on ringing then went into the yard to knock on the doorwall, then went to the kitchen window to take a look. i was actually laying on the floor below the window so i wouldn't been seen. after this went on for a good 10 min. she left!! oh, and then the phone started ringing. what was so frickin important? ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!! |
Detroitbred
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Username: Detroitbred
Post Number: 8
Registered: 06-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 3:45 pm: | |
I don't " pop in " and don't like to be popped in on either...don't like surprises! I don't even do that to my best friends. When someone stops by unexpectedly I feel like I need to run and clean the bathroom before they need to use it. And it's really not dirty. I guess it's just my quirk. |
Jcole
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Username: Jcole
Post Number: 2428
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 5:56 pm: | |
I can relate to the lying on the floor thing. I do free lance work so I'm home a lot, and a couple weeks ago, my dogs started to bark, and kept it up, so I snuck into a side bedroom, and looked out the window. A guy in a suit was standing on my porch knocking, and I just didn't want to be bothered, so I hid next to the window. He knocked for 10 minutes. I was starting to think I should answer when he went away. When my husband got home, he handed me the WatchTower pamphlet that was in the door. |
Alsodave
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Username: Alsodave
Post Number: 1131
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 6:02 pm: | |
Saved from being "saved". 
We don't like it either, and if a solicitor comes to the door, we just don't answer--even if the windows are open and the stereo's playing. |
Bearinabox
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Username: Bearinabox
Post Number: 737
Registered: 04-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 6:19 pm: | |
I don't mind, with the caveat that I'm not a "host." If you don't expect to be "hosted," you can crash on my couch until you lay down roots for all I care. I'm just not going to clean up for you or cook you dinner. |
Johnnny5
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Username: Johnnny5
Post Number: 773
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 6:28 pm: | |
Never bothered me in the least, If it's a friend or family they're always welcome. If it's a stranger or a salesman they're welcome until I ask them (Or tell them) to leave. |
Ravine
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Username: Ravine
Post Number: 2446
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 8:06 pm: | |
I think "dropping by" is horrendously rude, unless the by-dropper is a member of your immediate-- and I do mean immediate-- family, or a member of your spouse's immediate family.
And even they could call first, fer chrissakes. Everybody is on their goddam cellphones all the time, anyway, but it would figure if some clown used their cellphone, to talk to someone else, all the way over to your place, and "dropped by" without calling YOU. |
Ray1936
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Username: Ray1936
Post Number: 3384
Registered: 01-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 8:20 pm: | |
DYers can pop in on me any time.
Bring water. A pipeline from Lake Michigan would be excellent. Steaks are on me. |
Maof2
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Username: Maof2
Post Number: 37
Registered: 06-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 8:21 pm: | |
The thing is, a particular friend does this all the time. I have said many a time, that I really don't like when people pop in. It's almost like this particular husband/wife team think that this doesn't mean them. They just don't get it.
Oh, and please call your kids to come home. I've already served them breakfast, lunch and dinner two days in a row. It seems like I'm at the store every other day. |
Jcole
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Username: Jcole
Post Number: 2432
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 8:28 pm: | |
Oddly, I never minded if my kids had every kid on the block here from dawn til dark, and even overnight. But, the other mothers on my block were the same way, and we didn't just turn the kids loose on the neighbors. We warned each other, had coffee dates, swapped babysitting and generally took care of each others kids even when we weren't offically watching them.
It's just rude adults I don't like 'popping' in. |
Django
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Username: Django
Post Number: 1258
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 8:40 pm: | |
If you have beer, please knock. |
Alley
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Username: Alley
Post Number: 393
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 10:28 pm: | |
there are a select few I don't mind popping in (as long as it's a reasonable time), but generally I'd appreciate knowing ahead of time so I can hide all the porn and drugs.
Just kidding
But I do like to know so I can straighten up and get in company mode |
Django
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Username: Django
Post Number: 1263
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Thursday, July 10, 2008 - 10:58 pm: | |
Whats your address Alley??? |
Crystal
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Username: Crystal
Post Number: 226
Registered: 05-2007
| | Posted on Friday, July 11, 2008 - 12:26 pm: | |
Just this morning my Mom was complaining about that exact thing. She has a neighbor who stops by unannounced and stays for two+ hours.
I counsel Mom that it is perfectly all right to tell the neighbor something like: "I would love to visit with you, but this isn't a good time" or "Please come in, I can visit for a little while." I remind Mom that there is nothing wrong with setting boundaries. |
Maof2
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Username: Maof2
Post Number: 45
Registered: 06-2008
| | Posted on Friday, July 11, 2008 - 1:56 pm: | |
My poor mother too. We had this neighbor that would come over after we all went to school. She'd have her pack of no filter Camels and chew on that little string of tobacco and stay for hours!
Ravine's post about the cellphones, so frickin' funny!! |
Jcole
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Username: Jcole
Post Number: 2462
Registered: 04-2005
| | Posted on Friday, July 11, 2008 - 3:03 pm: | |
Back in the day when I was a kid, the mothers lived for the moment we all went to school so they could all get together and coffee clatch or stand outside by the fence and schmooze.
None of them worked outside the home, and you could only clean so much.
Now with 75% of the mom's working, it's a really imposition when people drop in and don't know when to leave. |
Sean_of_detroit
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Username: Sean_of_detroit
Post Number: 1098
Registered: 03-2008
| | Posted on Saturday, July 12, 2008 - 12:35 am: | |
I don't mind it. I don't think we have ever locked our doors. There is always someone over. Actually, once we did lock our door. Two of my roommates friends popped over and didn't know what to do sense no one was home. Naturally, they decided to brake in, busting the dead bolt in the process.
It made me feel liked when I was younger. Now I'm kind of sick of it. |
Dianeinaustin
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Username: Dianeinaustin
Post Number: 65
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Saturday, July 12, 2008 - 1:21 pm: | |
Sean, spell things correctly. The word is since, not sense. And break, not brake. |
Maof2
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Username: Maof2
Post Number: 52
Registered: 06-2008
| | Posted on Saturday, July 12, 2008 - 1:34 pm: | |
Wow, nothing like beating up on a guy. I knew what he meant |
Django
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Username: Django
Post Number: 1290
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, July 12, 2008 - 1:42 pm: | |
I gess it depends on whose popin inn? Sense I stik to miself mosly I enjoy the ocasional gest. |
Eriedearie
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Username: Eriedearie
Post Number: 2284
Registered: 08-2007
| | Posted on Saturday, July 12, 2008 - 2:02 pm: | |
Yea - whut evah, don' wee usely ovrlok spelin' masteaks hear? |
Dianeinaustin
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Username: Dianeinaustin
Post Number: 66
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Saturday, July 12, 2008 - 2:14 pm: | |
It's ok that Johnny can't read or write. |
Ravine
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Username: Ravine
Post Number: 2450
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, July 12, 2008 - 9:40 pm: | |
Diane makes lots of scents, but unless Sean's posts become totally indecipherable, it is unnecessary to attach him.
And Diane? I will be examining the spelling & grammar in YOUR posts VERY thoroughly, from this point foreword. |
Ravine
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Username: Ravine
Post Number: 2452
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Saturday, July 12, 2008 - 10:49 pm: | |
Et tu, Sean? If you're really of_Detroit, lock your fucking doors. All of that bouncy joie de vivre you emanate is somewhat endearing, but if you live in Detroit and you don't keep your doors locked, you had better work on developing some joie de good & fucked up.
It's cool that you love everybody and all of that shit, but lock your goddam door anyway. |
Mauser765
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Username: Mauser765
Post Number: 2933
Registered: 01-2004
| | Posted on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 1:30 am: | |
No pop ins, no popping in. Utter BS, and totally uncivilized. Aside from my best friend - who rarely would even do a pop in. |
Dianeinaustin
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Username: Dianeinaustin
Post Number: 67
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 2:28 pm: | |
Ravine,
Check out the definitions of the words forward and foreword. |
Django
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Username: Django
Post Number: 1306
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 4:21 pm: | |
Gheesh, just cut the crap. This is not the forum of English lit. Its a Detroit forum. If you live here you should be used to the English language being twisted into anything that remotely sounds as if its cool, let alone a few mispellings <SP. Get a grip all. |
Maof2
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Username: Maof2
Post Number: 55
Registered: 06-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 4:48 pm: | |
Yeah - Ditto!! |
Sean_of_detroit
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Username: Sean_of_detroit
Post Number: 1132
Registered: 03-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 8:06 pm: | |
Point being we do not lock it when we are home, and someone is ALWAYS home.
Sorry about the misspellings, and I appreciate those who defended me. However, it's not a unreasonable request. I use a automatic spell check which sometimes switches to the wrong alternative spellings without me realising it. I will try to proof read my posts a little better.
Of course, there are many times I also use the wrong spelling. Isn't it weird how that happens? It's almost automatic sometimes. I know the difference between "are" and "our", but for some reason I still make that mistake. Another one is "there", "their" and "they're", or "know" and "no". It's like some things we do, we do without thinking. We do some things on "auto pilot". It's not just with that either. when I waited tables back in the day, I always had an issue with people who requested their ice water without lemon. They would ask, but I often still managed to put lemon in it. Usually I would realize before I brought it to them, but not before I did it. Have you ever been to a fast food place? They never mess your order up when it is simple. A number whatever large. However, they NEVER can seem to get it right when you special order things. Ask for no onions, and you get onions. If you ask for extra relish, you often don't get it.
It's weird, isn't it?
PS: I will however, continue to spell cool as kewl, because I like it. If you don't like it, tough luck! I blame my poor spelling on the suburban schools I graduated from that so many of you here believe can't do no wrong. Haha, JOKES ON YOU! Your kids are probably going to end up just like me. Bwhahahaha!
(Message edited by Sean_of_Detroit on July 13, 2008) |
Ravine
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Username: Ravine
Post Number: 2455
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 8:51 pm: | |
Dianeinaustin, there are very few such common words of which the definition I need to check.
Apparently, the absurdity of my post's wording was a bit too understated. |
Bigb23
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Username: Bigb23
Post Number: 2220
Registered: 11-2007
| | Posted on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 10:14 pm: | |
Sean_of_detroit - I also have to spell check my spell checker. You do what you can. Dianeinaustin must be an English teacher. Or anal, or both. |
Ravine
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Username: Ravine
Post Number: 2458
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Sunday, July 13, 2008 - 11:50 pm: | |
I'm as much, or more, of a language geek as is anyone, but teaching English is a pursuit which belongs in English class. |
Maof2
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Username: Maof2
Post Number: 57
Registered: 06-2008
| | Posted on Monday, July 14, 2008 - 10:43 am: | |
Sean - Sorry you had to explain yourself. Really, there was no need too. I think the majority rules, it's no big deal. |
Ravine
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Username: Ravine
Post Number: 2460
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Monday, July 14, 2008 - 12:58 pm: | |
Dam write.
Sean, carry on. (And you do carry on, but look who's talking.) I will keep Dianeinaustin occupied. |
Django
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Username: Django
Post Number: 1317
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Monday, July 14, 2008 - 4:49 pm: | |
Well this is the"don't you get irritated when" thread. |
Bulletmagnet
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Username: Bulletmagnet
Post Number: 1434
Registered: 01-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, July 16, 2008 - 5:17 pm: | |
I was bangin' my sister-in-law when the wife 'poped in' on us. Damn it was irritating as hell. |
Turkeycall
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Username: Turkeycall
Post Number: 8
Registered: 09-2008
| | Posted on Monday, September 08, 2008 - 6:49 pm: | |
Bulletmagnet,
I'm looking for you and I'm getting irritated. Gotta find out which of the first set of ten you are. You're not Dave. You've already mentioned him is a previous post. I wouldn't think you to be Diane, Lynne, or Elaine. Maybe Bucky or Eric. Regardless, we haven't seen each other in, maybe,forty years. |
Grumpyoldlady
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Username: Grumpyoldlady
Post Number: 227
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 09, 2008 - 2:26 am: | |
As far as I'm concerned, as long as the meaning is clear, who the heck cares about spelling errors and grammatical incorrectness. On chat boards, etc. I figure just get the thoughts down and don't worry too much about spelling and typos. This coming from someone who worked for 11 years proofreading magazine copy. Now in newspapers and magazines, the errors drive me nuts! Our local small town paper had an article that mentioned FEMA, and the reporter explained "FEMA" as "Federal Emergency Medical Association". Can you believe that???? I circled that in red and sent it to their office. |
Grumpyoldlady
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Username: Grumpyoldlady
Post Number: 228
Registered: 06-2005
| | Posted on Tuesday, September 09, 2008 - 2:29 am: | |
My sister has neatly lettered sign by her doorbell that says "If I'm not expecting YOU, don't YOU expect ME to answer the door." She no longer has people popping in unannounced. |
Steelworker
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Username: Steelworker
Post Number: 1166
Registered: 02-2004
| | Posted on Thursday, September 11, 2008 - 1:56 pm: | |
Some times im unexpectedly near a friends house i will call him from my cell to see if he minds a visitor. I would never just drop by. |
Ravine
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Username: Ravine
Post Number: 2718
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, September 11, 2008 - 5:06 pm: | |
That's the spirit! Hopefully, you're not right at the nearest cross-street when you make that call. |
Alan55
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Username: Alan55
Post Number: 2153
Registered: 09-2005
| | Posted on Thursday, September 11, 2008 - 8:40 pm: | |
Ray1936: "Bring water. A pipeline from Lake Michigan would be excellent. "
Sure enough Ray. We will swap it for some of those casino revenues in Vegas. I think the going rate for water is about $1.69 per 16 ounces, or $420 bucks per 31-gallon barrel.
Sounds like a deal. |
Cheddar_bob
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Username: Cheddar_bob
Post Number: 1964
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Thursday, September 11, 2008 - 9:49 pm: | |
Maof2,
I stopped by your house this afternoon but you weren't home. I'll drop by some time next week. |
Maof2
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Username: Maof2
Post Number: 534
Registered: 06-2008
| | Posted on Friday, September 12, 2008 - 5:45 am: | |
sorry cb, running errands. next time, call first |
Cheddar_bob
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Username: Cheddar_bob
Post Number: 1970
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Friday, September 12, 2008 - 3:55 pm: | |
I don't have your number. I'll just drop by when it's convenient for me. See ya then! |
Ravine
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Username: Ravine
Post Number: 2728
Registered: 01-2006
| | Posted on Friday, September 12, 2008 - 10:55 pm: | |
And, Cheddar_bob? When you come by, at your convenience, make sure that you don't bring a goddam thing: not a measly 12-ounce beer, or a 25-cent bag of chips, not even so much as a fuckin' Pixy Stik, O.K.?
It's so important to maintain the integrity of the over-all theme, y'know. |
Cheddar_bob
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Username: Cheddar_bob
Post Number: 1988
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, September 13, 2008 - 3:33 am: | |
I'm under the assumption that he will have beer. He better anyway, 'cause I'm gonna drink it. Maof, I suggest you go pick up a case. No cheap shit, either. |
Maof2
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Username: Maof2
Post Number: 565
Registered: 06-2008
| | Posted on Saturday, September 13, 2008 - 2:01 pm: | |
ravine, i'm glad you stayed
cheddar - BYOB if you need that much |
Cheddar_bob
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Username: Cheddar_bob
Post Number: 1992
Registered: 10-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, September 13, 2008 - 3:25 pm: | |
quote:BYOB if you need that much
hahahaha, yeah right. I'll ask you to run up to the store after I drink whatever you got. I'll give you a heads up, too.... I am partial to expensive European cheese and Italian salami. You should probably stop by R. Hirt's sometime before next week. |